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Philia (Greek φιλία, Strong's G5373; verb φιλέω, G5368) is the New Testament's word for the warm love of genuine friendship — affection, loyalty, and delight in another person. Unlike agape, which is a chosen commitment to another's good, philia is felt fondness. It gives English “Philadelphia” (brotherly love) and sits behind Jesus' words to the disciples: “I have called you friends” (John 15:15).
| Original word | φιλία / φιλέω |
|---|---|
| Transliteration | philia / phileō (fil-EE-ah) |
| Strong's number | G5373 (noun) · G5368 (verb phileō) |
| Part of speech | Noun, feminine / verb |
| Short definition | friendship, fondness, affection, brotherly love |
| Occurrences | Verb phileō about 25 times; the phil- family runs through the New Testament |
“Henceforth I call you not servants… but I have called you friends.”John 15:15 (KJV)
The love that likes you
If agape is love that commits, philia is love that enjoys. It is the affection between people who have chosen each other's company — David and Jonathan, whose souls were “knit” together (1 Samuel 18:1); Jesus and Lazarus, of whom the sisters said simply, “he whom thou lovest [phileis] is sick” (John 11:3). Where agape can be commanded toward an enemy, philia describes a bond you actually feel.
The phil- family
Greek built a whole vocabulary on this root, and much of it came into English:
- Philadelphia — philos + adelphos, “brotherly love.” “Let brotherly love continue” (Hebrews 13:1).
- Philoxenia — love of strangers, translated “hospitality” (Romans 12:13; Hebrews 13:2).
- Philostorgos — philia fused with family love: “kindly affectioned one to another” (Romans 12:10).
- Philosophy — love of wisdom; Philemon — “affectionate”; even philargyria, love of money, “the root of all evil” (1 Timothy 6:10).
Philia and agape in John 21
The most discussed passage involving both words comes after the resurrection. Three times Jesus questions Peter, who had denied him three times. Twice Jesus asks using agapao; twice Peter answers with phileo. The third time Jesus himself switches to phileo — and Peter is grieved. Interpreters divide: some see a deliberate contrast (Jesus asking for committed love, Peter able only to claim warm affection), others see stylistic variation, since John alternates synonyms freely. Either way, the exchange restores Peter publicly, three affirmations answering three denials.
Friendship as a serious biblical category
- It is costly. “Greater love hath no man than this, that a man lay down his life for his friends” (John 15:13).
- It is honest. “Faithful are the wounds of a friend” (Proverbs 27:6); “iron sharpeneth iron” (Proverbs 27:17).
- It is selective, and that is not a failure. Jesus loved everyone; he also had three disciples closer than the rest, and a household at Bethany he visited as a friend.
- It can be misdirected. James warns that “the friendship [philia] of the world is enmity with God” (James 4:4) — the noun's clearest New Testament appearance is a caution.
Abraham, the friend of God
The highest use of the word is a title: Abraham “was called the Friend of God” (James 2:23; cf. 2 Chronicles 20:7; Isaiah 41:8). That God permits the category at all — not merely subject and King, but friend — is among Scripture's more startling claims, and it is the note Jesus sounds again in John 15:15.
Open the word, not just a definition
Open phileō (G5368) in By The Water's Word Study tab and walk its occurrences beside agapaō (G26) — seeing the two side by side in John 21 is the fastest way to feel the difference the English 'love' hides.
Frequently asked questions
What does philia mean in the Bible?
Philia is the Greek word for the love of friendship — warm affection, loyalty, and delight in another person. The verb form phileō appears about 25 times in the New Testament.
What is the difference between philia and agape?
Philia is felt affection between friends; agape is a chosen commitment to seek another's good regardless of feeling or merit. That is why agape can be commanded toward enemies while philia describes a bond you actually experience. Learn more.
Does Philadelphia come from philia?
Yes — Philadelphia combines philos (loving) and adelphos (brother): 'brotherly love'. The New Testament uses the word philadelphia for love among believers, as in Hebrews 13:1, 'Let brotherly love continue.'
Is friendship with the world condemned in the Bible?
James 4:4 warns that 'the friendship of the world is enmity with God' — using philia for a settled allegiance to the world's values, not for having non-Christian friends. Jesus himself was called a friend of sinners (Matthew 11:19).